I’ve just been organising my audio files and emails for my Peaceful Parenting course and as I have gone through I have read the inspiring quotes that Jolette has included. I have found them so inspiring I just felt I had to share them here.
‘When we parent the world, we are parenting the world and it’s future.’
‘Whether childhood was good or bad does not determine whether we will be a sensitive parent or not. What is important is that we are able to tell our story of childhood…..telling our story is a crucial step to being able to see and hear our children for who they are.’
Ruth Beaglehole, Center for Nonviolent Education and Parenting
‘The human brain and heart that are met primarily with empathy in the critical early years cannot and will not grow to choose a violent or selfish life.’
‘Children shouldn’t have to earn our approval.
Children need to be loved as they are, and for who they are.’
‘How much more precious is a little humanity than all the rules in the world.’ Jean Piaget
‘In the last decade or so, science has discovered a tremendous amount about the role emotions play in our lives. Researchers have found that even more than IQ, your emotional awareness and abilities to handle feelings will determine your success and happiness in all walks of life, including family relationships.’
John Gottman ‘Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child’
‘When you blame others, you give up your power to change.’
‘To forgive is the highest, most beautiful form of love. In return, you will receive untold peace and happiness.’
‘Where focus goes, energy flows. And if you don’t take the time to focus on what matters, then you’re living a life of someone else’s design.’
‘Children are not resilient; they are adaptive. In other words, they don’t simply ‘bounce-back’: they re-shape themselves.’
‘Love is not something we give or get; it is something that we nurture and grow, a connection that can only be cultivated between two people when it exists within each one of them – we can only love others as much as we love ourselves.’
‘Beliefs have the power to create and the power to destroy. Human beings have the awesome ability to take any experience of their lives and create a meaning that disempowers them or one that can literally save their lives.’
‘The better we can relate together, the better we can create together.’
Life’s Sweet Flow
I like being aware that there’s nothing to achieve.
Life’s a gift I have only to receive.
And I want to stay in touch with life’s sweet flow,
And spread loving waves wherever I go.
I want everything I say or do,
To bring strength, warmth, and light to you.’
‘We might say it’s our job (as parents) to be “in control,” in the sense of creating a healthy and safe environment, offering guidance, and setting limits – but it’s not our job to be “controlling,” in the sense of demanding absolute obedience or relying on pressure or continuous regulation.
In fact, we need to be in control of helping them to gain control over their own lives.
The goal is empowerment rather than conformity, and the methods are respectful rather than coercive.’
‘In Buddhism, we speak of touching Nirvana with our own body,
In Christianity, you can also touch the Kingdom of God with your body, right here and now.
It is much safer than placing our hope in the future.
If we cling to the idea of hope in the future, we might not notice the peace and joy
that are available in the present moment.
The best way to take care of the future is to take care of the present moment.’
Thich Nhat Hanh
‘Thinking based on who deserves what blocks compassionate communication.’
‘You are now at a crossroads. This is your opportunity to make the most important decision you will ever make. Forget your past. Who are you now? Who have you decided you really are now? Don’t think about who you have been. Who are you now? Who have you decided to become? Make this decision consciously. Make it carefully. Make it powerfully.’
‘You have to welcome their arguing with you, not to the point of disrespect, but if they are going to stand up for themselves, they need to learn to argue effectively’
Alfie Kohn (on children)
‘Awareness is the power that is concealed within the present moment. …
The ultimate purpose of human existence, which is to say, your purpose,
is to bring that power into this world.’
‘Insanity is doing the same thing, over and over again, but expecting different results.’
‘You have brains in your head.
You have feet in your shoes.
You can steer yourself in any direction you choose.
You’re on your own, and you know what you know.
And you are the guy who’ll decide where to go.’
‘The emotions aren’t always immediately subject to reason, but they are always immediately subject to action.’
‘…the more you become a commisseur of gratitude, the less you are a victim of resentment, depression, and despair. Gratitude will act as an elixir that will gradually dissolve the hard shell of your ego – your need to possess and control – and transform you into a generous being. The sense of gratitude produces true spiritual alchemy, makes us magnanimous-large souled.’
‘Sometimes the smallest things take up the most room in your heart.’
Winnie the Pooh
‘At the heart of feeling joined is the experience of empathic emotional communication.
The way one mind becomes interwoven with another is through the sharing of the surges of energy that are our primary emotions.
When children feel positive sensations, such as in moments of joy and mastery, parents can share these emotional states and enthusiastically reflect and amplify them with their children.’
Daniel Siegel, M.D. & Mary Hartzell, M.Ed.,
Parenting From the Inside Out
‘Your children’s genes reflect only their potential, not their destiny.
It is up to you to provide the environment that allows them to develop to their highest potential.’
‘Where there is fear there cannot be respect.
Although a child may envy or fear the power a parent or teacher wields over them,
their feelings do not include the sacred, essential quality of loving reverence that makes respect, respect.’
‘Don’t walk behind me; I may not lead.
Don’t walk in front of me; I may not follow.
Just walk beside me and be my friend.’
‘Enjoy the little things in life, for someday you will realize they were the big things.’
‘Every moment and every event of every man’s life on earth plants something in his soul.’
‘Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.’